I'm back today today to talk a little bit about Alex, because it's nearly her birthday, and well, because. I know I talk about her a lot, but other the last few weeks I feel out friendship and grown and strengthened even more than it was before. It's like a tree, and the roots are moving further down into the ground, and further out from the trunk to making it stable and strong.
I think it is really important to surround yourself with like minded people. People who really truly 'get' you. For me, Alex is one of those people. She totally gets what I'm about. She gets my style, my sense of humour, my passion, my psychology, me.
The other thing I think is really important is friends who challenge you to grow. Alex is also that for me. Completely unintentionally, and almost subconsciously, she has challenged me to grow. To be even more OK with being me. She has brought out more of me. More meness. It's like it was in there, and it was waiting for someone to coax it out with a cookie.
Don' get me wrong, all the people who are currently in my life as friends as there because I want them there. They are there because our love in mutual, because they support and encourage me, because I can count on them. And this is super important. I've said it before, and I will continue to say it. Its' really important to get rid of the people who bring you down.
I have never had a very large friendship group. To me, it's really important to have a connection with people, to have a trust in my friends, to be able to count on them. To have no judgement, or fear. The people who I truly, wholeheartedly let into my life are few, but they will stay there forever.
I hated Alex when I first met her. She breezed in to our very first dinner late, and tall and loud. She is openly obnoxious. But, then I fell for her pretty hard and fast. It's hard to explain, but we are each so OK with our authentic selves, and how and who we are in the world, and we see those things in each other, and our similarities in ourselves, and it fuels our fires, and keeps us doing what we do.
I love you Alex!
